For several reasons!
1. My children eat horribly! I tried so hard, I listened to those Gerber commercials, telling me that how my BABY eats now will dictate how they eat and the choices they make for the rest of their lives! Guess what.....I think they are right!
I tried so hard, I fed them all the right baby foods. I transitioned into all the right foods, and Thomas never did like a lot of vegetables. He never did like meat, unless it was a cheeseburger. He used to eat grilled chicken all the time. Now? NOTHING!
Christopher ate like a champ! He was my self proclaimed vegetarian until he ate a cheeseburger. But he won't eat chicken, unless it's that "guess you can call it chicken" chicken from Panda Express.....Yes I feed my 2 year old fast food, don't judge!
Well apparently now? They won't eat anything! The last two nights both my boys have basically gone hungry, because they won't eat their dinner! Mommy Failure Moment #1.
2. My 3.5 year old WILL NOT poop in the potty! He WILL NOT! And he knows when he has to go, he knows when he gets that urge because he disappers and gets all quiet!
Now I know he has issues, he's had chronic constipation since he was 6 months old, he's been on miralax every other day for the past year. It's not a matter of his stool not being soft, it's soft, he just has this fear.
His school is pressing me! He will be 4 in May, and once he turns 4 he can move into the pre-K class, and in the Pre-K class you can't NOT be potty Trained.
I've tried, I've read every stupid piece of literature on the internet about this, and I've done. it. all. And now? I got nothing. Mommy Failure Moment #2.
3. My child acts up, as most 2 & 3.5 year olds do, it's happens, so child is perfect! But apparently no matter what I do, it's wrong! LOVE THAT! And we'll leave it at only 3 Mommy Failure moments for tonight, even though I am sure there is so much more, my emotional state can't take anymore!
I've only been doing this mommy thing for 3.5 years, I don't know it all, I don't know all the answers, and I'm going to screw up, let's hope my boys won't suffer because of my failures!
What do you see as some of your mommy failure moments? Or maybe? You're the perfect parent and you can tell me what I am doing wrong?
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I was laying on the floor trying to get a toy out from under the couch. My 17 month old grabbed my hair and slammed my face into the floor. On purpose. That is my mommy fail for today. Apparently, I am raising a violent sociopath.
1) Those don't sound like "fails" to me at all! Kids are difficult, so I hear, and if that's the worst things you can think of you're doing a great job!
2) I love how "fail" #2 is all about poop. And how I just made my 2nd point about #2. I am easily amused :)
These are not Mommy "fail" moments, they are simply "MOMMY" moments. We ALL have things like this and we all feel like failures, but these things are not fails. My kids eat like yours...I don't know how they survive honestly.
If you consider those moments failures then every mom on the planet has failed! We've all been there.
I can't keep clothes on my kids any time of year. I should live in a nudist colony.
I swear my daughter will eat nothing with color! Milk, rice and pasta is about the only thing I can get her to touch.
There was a time when I didn't take my son to the hospital when he was really sick, I didn't know any better. And another time I rushed my daughter to the ER for a rash and the dr. took one look at her and told me she was fine.Those were my biggest mommy fails.
It'll get better and you'll be smarter and some day your kids will call you for parenting advice.
It sounds like you are doing great! My son won't eat meat at all really either... and he is pretty picky about veggies. I've put ketchup on things to try to get him to eat... but he is pretty good with that, he'll suck the ketchup off and spit the rest out.
So not Mommy Fails. From what I understand the food thing is super normal and you just have to basically give them whatever food they'll actually eat for the phase, keep offering other healthier stuff and EVENTUALLY they'll eat it. I know the day is coming where we start getting food refusal. B is just too young to know better now and is still excited that she gets to eat!
How bout this for Mommy fail. I made jambalaya, went easy on the cayenne because B would be eating it, but she grabs the food, then rubs her eyes. Next day, daycare thinks she has pink eye. No, I'm just an awful mother who let her kid rub pepper in her eyes. Weird thing is? She wasn't cranky or appearing hurt, just her eyes got irritated.
I know you're in Canada so the laws are different but an old law that has a new name here in the United States is PL42.142?? States that all children should receive a fair and appropriate education. Which would basically mean they would have to accept him into the pre-k class weather or not he's potty trained. I bet Canada has a similar law.
DOn't be so hard on yourself...those aren't failures. Think of them as....trial and error. THe toilet thing- all kiddos are so different; with our toughest we used bribery. Totally! I let him pick out anything (and everything) in Target! Don't judge!! He poops in the toilet now.
So basically what you're telling me is that you're human and your kids are too? Shocking! ;-)
My son was a picky eater briefly as a toddler.
He's 17 now. Last night he ate four hot pockets, then drove to McDonald's because he was hungry. And believe it or not, he also eats very healthy food; in fact he eats almost any & everything!
This too shall pass.
Stop it. You are not having a failure moment. These are normal things. No one is perfect and anyone who says they are is the true failures.
Take heart. We've all been there --if not for the same issues, then definitely for something else. :)
I am constantly trying to find the patience and the groundedness to stay calm even when I feel like screaming. That's what I'm trying to work on and some days I succeed and some days I don't.
Oh my gosh those are NOT mommy fail moments! Those to me sound like the same moments every mommy has! Some days, some weeks my kids harldy eat a thing. Most days I cannot get my girls to eat breakfast. They just will not. Then other days all they want is junk, then other days just good for you stuff. I figure it will all even out in the end. Right??? Wanna know a mommy fail... having your 3 year old say the bad word you just said & then saying it again because you said it again. I am not very good at sensoring my potty mouth at times I guess.
You quit being so hard on yourself. You adore your boys I think that Mommy perfection is that your kids know that!
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